8 Easy Steps to Finish the Qur’an this Ramadan

It has been said that everything has a beloved & that the month of Ramadan has a beloved, too: The Glorious Qur’an. And so for the duration of this month, Muslims worldwide honour Ramadan’s Beloved & aspire to complete the recitation of the Qur’aan.

In this article you’ll learn how you too, can work towards achieving this noble goal, inshaAllah

 

 

 

 

 

Step 1: Establishing an intention.

Our beloved Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) taught us – through his words & actions – the important of ones intent or purpose. Establishing one’s intention is an effective catalyst to implementation. Once your intention has been established, remember to renew it often. Whilst reciting & even upon completion of Qur’an, recall your intention & renew it, thus ensuring that it is constantly purified & you are seeking His Divine Acceptance, inshaAllah.

Step 2: Don’t be Overwhelmed.

For some, as much as they aspire to complete the recitation of the Qur’an during Ramadan, they are overwhelmed by the number of pages or the length of some surahs. Remove ‘I can’t’ from your vocabulary & eliminate negative thinking for the believer puts their trust in Allah matched by striving with their actions. Remind yourself that you are (Allah Willing) fully capable of achieving your Qur’aanic aspirations, whether it be completing 1 or 5 times the completion of Al-Qur’an. This second point is key. Put your heart into this accomplishment & reap the rewards throughout, inshaAllah.

 

Step: 3 Plan Ahead.

Prior to commencing with your recitation it’s important to plan around your routine and block out time for your Qur’an goal Eg. your work hours, rest hours & any other commitments which you may have. Structure a realistic plan of how to complete the recitation of Qur’aan within the month by dividing each Juzz up per day. Draw up this personal plan, review it constantly, and put it into action!

As you put your plan to paper, consider past Ramadans and ask yourself if there have been instances where you were unable to complete Qur’anic recitation. Reflect over why & how this occurred? Is there a different mechanism that you could put into place? How could you enhance your daily Qur’an routine if these distractions were dealt with?

Take the first opportunity that comes, to begin your Qur’anic quest. So when the moon is sighted & the announcement has been made for the 1st Salaatul-Taraweeh, begin in earnest, with Surah Al-Fatiha, Surah Al-Baqarah.. etc

Step 4: Understanding Qur’an.

Read the translation of the Juzz you will be reciting daily. Having a basic knowledge of the theme, topic, message & meaning of what you are reciting makes the recitation of the Qur’an an incredibly uplifting experience that you do not want to miss out on!

Step 5: Find Qur’an Buddies & Compete in Good

Develop close bonds with brothers/sisters who are known for their attachment to the Qur’an, they’ll be your spiritual friends. Engage a Qur’an Buddy in your noble Qur’an productivity goals. Request that they remind you to fulfil your goals & spiritual aspirations so they can help you at times of slacking.

In life we compete with many materialistic goals and race one another but what about following the footsteps of the best generations that had come before us in a competition this Ramadan? In striving & competing with our friends & colleagues, in a good-natured way, towards our noble goals we can motivate ourselves to finish our Qur’an goal.

One of the common aspects which deter a Muslim from completing this task is excessive communication. Often, many of us spend too much unnecessary time surfing the net, chatting, texting, etc. Reduce this even by a third & you will see, feel and witness the blessings in your time, inshaAllah.

Step 6: Seize the Moment.

A deeply inspiring story with ‘lessons from the waiting room’ – where a mother who has taken her unwell child to the hospital waits for the doctor to see to her child. She notices a young Muslim who uses his time in the waiting room, in a most effective & spiritually rewarding way, reciting from a pocket-sized Quran. Lesson to be taken here: Invest in a pocket-sized Qur’an and make it your Best Friend this Ramadan. Seize every opportunity & moment to be with Allah swt through your recitation.

One of the best times at which to recite Qur’an, is after Suhoor. Having partaken from the sunnah meal, and with a hour or two still to go before work or school this is the ideal jumpstart to your day. The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) asked Allah Subhanhu wa Ta’ala to bless our Ummah in the early hours, and you will also be more likely to memorise ayahs at this time. Research shows that morning study creates better performance in students so don’t miss the morning recitation!

Time Tip: Salah Followed by Qur’an.

Consider the following option that has worked well for numerous people in past Ramadans. Try reciting 6 – 8 pages of Qur’an (depending on the Mus-haf that you are using) after each of your 5 daily salah. Add Qiyaamul-Layl as a 6th addition, and you will reach the end of Ramadan, having completed your Qur’aan recitation with ease & perhaps, even before the last 5 days of Ramadan so long as you remain committed.

Time Tip: Recite before going to sleep.

Allah Subhanhu wa Ta’ala says: “Truly the rising by night is most potent for governing (the soul) and most suitable for (framing) the Word (of Prayer and Praise).” [73:6] Reciting during the day is also beneficial, however the night time recitation is easier as well during ramadan as there are less distractions and noise.

Step 7: Remain steadfast & consistent.

The key to any success is consistency. Once you’ve mapped your plan, stick to it. Remind yourself of the greatness of this month, of the opportunities that it provides for your spiritual growth & your relationship with the Qur’an. Don’t be willing to compromise it in this month.

Step 8: Make dua’a to Allah Subhanhu wa Ta’ala

Nothing can be achieved without the Aid & Guidance of Allah ‘Azza wa jal. When making your intention to complete your memorisation of Qur’an, supplicate to Allah ‘Azza wa jal to ease this noble pathway & to crown your efforts with success, inshaAllah.

That’s 10 ways I wanted to share with you on starting and completing your journey through recitation of the Qur’an this Ramadan. Indeed Allah swt says in Surah Al-Baqarah: ’’This is the Book about which there is no doubt, a guidance for those conscious of Allah’’ [2.2] Let the Qur’an be your means for attaining tawqa this Ramadan.

In the hours of the days & nights of this sacred month, May the Qur’an be your companion of light & guidance, resonating through your words, actions & life mission. May your relationship with the Qur’an be strengthened, enriched & enlivened with the Profound Wisdom & Divine Message from Allah Most High.

About the Author:

*British-born Haafidha Rayhaanah Omar is an international award-winning radio personality, certified life coach & consultant for Muslimaat, assisting them to develop their lives spiritually & emotionally. As the founder of Fee Qalbee, her passion lies in mentoring Muslimaat seeking to memorise Al Qur’aan, thereby enriching their lives through this noble journey. Rayhaanah has studied aspects of oratory & mass media communications both privately & at college level. She memorised The Qur’aan in less than a year & has since then, furthered her Islamic studies in numerous countries around the world. Her intersts & speciality lies in ‘Uloomul Qur’aan, Seerah & Ahaadeeth. For 6 years, she served as the principal of Darul Qur’aan Linn-Nisaa’, an academy of Tahfeedhul Qur’aan, Itqaanul Qur’aan & Uloomul Qur’aan,with a student enrolment of 400 learners. An established, motivational speaker, Rayhaanah has successfully consulted to thousands of women on: confidence building, time-management, goal-planning & emotional healing. She has lived, studied abroad & travelled extensively with her husband. They have an 8-year old blogging son, Mu’awiyah & are currently based in Johannesburg, South Africa.

Taken from : http://www.productiveramadan.com/8-easy-steps-to-finish-the-quran-this-ramadan/#

 

 

 

Communicating Effectively with Others

Communicating effectively with others can transform relationships.

Have you ever felt like no one was really listening to you – or at least not hearing and understanding you? And at other times have you wondered what other people are babbling on about? At times it feels as though we need a decoding book to decipher what is really meant by what is being said. And this is only the tip of the frustration.

Communication mishaps can cause mistakes, arguments, broken relationships and even wars. You’d think with our advanced technology and evolving consciousness we’d be able to communicate clearly and easily. Perhaps we’re just too busy to take the time to listen, or too fearful to speak our truth. Yet, when we communicate effectively, we enhance our relationships.

Communication is a powerful tool which can bring people closer together or tear them apart. Words can be shared with kindness and care, neutrality and honesty, or they can be voiced with an emotional charge, a defensive tone, or a hostile attack. And words only play a small part – there is the tone, the speed, the eyes, the body language, and the energy behind the words that all form the process of interrelating.

The key that I’ve discovered to communicating clearly and cleanly is in looking at my intention. Am I trying to create discord, and if so, why? Am I trying to get something, and if so, what? Do I want to be right and prove them wrong? Or, do I want to understand them without my judgments interfering? Do I want to express how I really feel? And most importantly, am I willing to take responsibility for how I am interpreting and reacting to the other person?

We can use communication to build bridges or build walls – in every moment it’s our choice.

What’s Your Communication Style?

taken from : http://ginigrey.com/LoveBug/communicating-effectively-with-others/#more-1157

How to Resolve Conflict with a Friend

The key to friendship is knowing how to resolve conflict.

Not many people go through life without having a dispute or experiencing conflict with family and friends. It’s natural given that we each have our own beliefs, life experiences, childhood wounds, and present-time perspectives. We’re not always going to see life through the same lens as our friends, and occasionally we may trigger each other, push each other’s hot buttons, and feel as though we’re at an impasse.

If you were raised with good conflict resolution skills then you’ll know how to navigate through the pitfalls of friendship in order to regain harmony. But if you’re like most people, you picked up your social skills by trial and error, modeling dysfunctional family members, trying to do the best you can with the tools you have.

Here are some additional tips and tools for you to explore in resolving conflict with a friend.

Be clear about the issue. Sometimes we react without knowing what is really bothering us. If you are hurt or angry with a friend, take some time to source out the real issue. Notice your feelings and then explore what underlies them. For example, if you blame your friend for being self-absorbed, perhaps you haven’t set clear boundaries, or you give too much attention to others and not enough to yourself (sometimes our hurt feelings reflect our relationship to ourselves not the other person).

Gain insight into your friend’s feelings. If your friend is upset with you, take time to listen to their feelings and explore what is going on underneath the issue. As well, use your insight and intuition to see the bigger picture. For example, if your friend feels betrayed because you won’t take sides on a debate between her and another friend of yours, perhaps old childhood wounds have been triggered within her. Seeing this may help you to have compassion.

Imagine your friend’s perspective. It’s easy to see an issue from our perspective, but there are always two sides to a conflict. Take a break from rehashing your side and imagine what it’s like from your friend’s perspective. How would you feel and react if you were her in this situation (imagine her beliefs, wounds, and life experiences to get a sense of how she sees things). This will give you a balanced perspective.

Communicate clearly from the heart. If we debate an issue from our intellect only, we risk getting caught in blame and judgment, seeing only through right/wrong, good/bad perspectives. When we connect to our heart, we see the other person and the conflict through the eyes of love. We step out of blame and into resolution as we know that relationships are here to help us grow and evolve. The issue itself takes a back seat to the affinity we feel for the other person. So as you communicate, place a hand over your heart, or silently ask your heart what it wants to say.

I hope these suggestions help you to get your friendship back on track. But feel free to ask more specific questions on how to resolve conflict with your friend in the comment section.

taken from : http://ginigrey.com/LoveBug/how-to-resolve-conflict-with-a-friend/

 

Passport By Profesor Rhenald Kasali ==> Dengan Passport Kita Bisa Lihat belahan dari Dunia…

PASSPORT

Oleh Rhenald Kasali

 

 

[Jawapos, 8 Agustus 2011]

 

Setiap saat mulai perkuliahan, saya selalu bertanya kepada mahasiswa berapa

orang yang sudah memiliki pasport. Tidak mengherankan, ternyata hanya

sekitar 5% yang mengangkat tangan. Ketika ditanya berapa yang sudah pernah

naik pesawat, jawabannya melonjak tajam. Hampir 90% mahasiswa saya sudah

pernah melihat awan dari atas. Ini berarti mayoritas anak-anak kita hanyalah

pelancong lokal.

 

Maka, berbeda dengan kebanyakan dosen yang memberi tugas kertas berupa PR

dan paper, di kelas-kelas yang saya asuh saya memulainya dengan memberi

tugas mengurus pasport. Setiap mahasiswa harus memiliki “surat ijin

memasuki dunia global.”. Tanpa pasport manusia akan kesepian, cupet,

terkurung dalam kesempitan, menjadi pemimpin yang steril. Dua minggu

kemudian, mahasiswa sudah bisa berbangga karena punya pasport.

 

Setelah itu mereka bertanya lagi, untuk apa pasport ini? Saya katakan,

pergilah keluar negeri yang tak berbahasa Melayu. Tidak boleh ke Malaysia,

Singapura, Timor Leste atau Brunei Darussalam. Pergilah sejauh yang mampu

dan bisa dijangkau.

 

“Uang untuk beli tiketnya bagaimana, pak?”

Saya katakan saya tidak tahu.

 

*Dalam hidup ini, setahu saya hanya orang

bodohlah yang selalu memulai pertanyaan hidup, apalagi memulai misi

kehidupan dan tujuannya dari uang.

 

*Dan begitu seorang pemula bertanya

uangnya dari mana, maka ia akan terbelenggu oleh constraint. Dan hampir

pasti jawabannya hanyalah tidak ada uang, tidak bisa, dan tidak mungkin.

 

Pertanyaan seperti itu tak hanya ada di kepala mahasiswa, melainkan juga

para dosen steril yang kurang jalan-jalan. Bagi mereka yang tak pernah

melihat dunia, luar negeri terasa jauh, mahal, mewah, menembus batas

kewajaran dan buang-buang uang. Maka tak heran banyak dosen yang takut

sekolah ke luar negeri sehingga memilih kuliah di almamaternya sendiri.

Padahal dunia yang terbuka bisa membukakan sejuta kesempatan untuk maju.

Anda bisa mendapatkan sesuatu yang yang terbayangkan, pengetahuan,

teknologi, kedewasaan, dan wisdom.

 

Namun beruntunglah, pertanyaan seperti itu tak pernah ada di kepala para

pelancong, dan diantaranya adalah mahasiswa yang dikenal sebagai kelompok

backpackers. Mereka adalah pemburu tiket dan penginapan super murah,

menggendong ransel butut dan bersandal jepit, yang kalau kehabisan uang

bekerja di warung sebagai pencuci piring. Perilaku melancong mereka

sebenarnya tak ada bedanya dengan remaja-remaja Minang, Banjar, atau Bugis,

yang merantau ke Pulau Jawa berbekal seadanya.Ini berarti tak banyak orang

yang paham bahwa bepergian keluar negeri sudah tak semenyeramkan, sejauh,

bahkan semewah di masa lalu.

 

Seorang mahasiswa asal daerah yang saya dorong pergi jauh, sekarang malah

rajin bepergian. Ia bergabung ke dalam kelompok PKI (Pedagang Kaki Lima

Internasional) yang tugasnya memetakan pameran-pameran besar yang

dikoordinasi pemerintah. Disana mereka membuka lapak, mengambil resiko,

menjajakan aneka barang kerajinan, dan pulangnya mereka jalan-jalan, ikut

kursus, dan membawa dolar. Saat diwisuda, ia menghampiri saya dengan

menunjukkan pasportnya yang tertera stempel imigrasi dari 35 negara. Selain

kaya teori, matanya tajam mengendus peluang dan rasa percaya tinggi. Saat

teman-temannya yang lulus cum-laude masih mencari kerja, ia sudah menjadi

eksekutif di sebuah perusahaan besar di luar negeri.

*

 

The Next Convergence*

Dalam bukunya yang berjudul The Next Convergence, penerima hadiah Nobel

ekonomi Michael Spence mengatakan, dunia tengah memasuki Abad Ke tiga dari

Revolusi Industri. dan sejak tahun 1950, rata-rata pendapatan penduduk

dunia telah meningkat dua puluh kali lipat. Maka kendati penduduk miskin

masih banyak, adalah hal yang biasa kalau kita menemukan perempuan

miskin-lulusan SD dari sebuah dusun di Madura bolak-balik Surabaya-Hongkong.

 

Tetapi kita juga biasa menemukan mahasiswa yang hanya sibuk demo dan tak

pernah keluar negeri sekalipun. Jangankan ke luar negeri, tahu harga tiket

pesawat saja tidak, apalagi memiliki pasport.Maka bagi saya, penting bagi

para pendidik untuk membawa anak-anak didiknya melihat dunia. Berbekal lima

ratus ribu rupiah, anak-anak SD dari Pontianak dapat diajak menumpang bis

melewati perbatasan Entekong memasuki Kuching. Dalam jarak tempuh sembilan

jam mereka sudah mendapatkan pelajaran PPKN yang sangat penting, yaitu

pupusnya kebangsaan karena kita kurang urus daerah perbatasan. Rumah-rumah

kumuh, jalan berlubang, pedagang kecil yang tak diurus Pemda, dan

infrastruktur yang buruk ada di bagian sini. Sedangkan hal sebaliknya ada

di sisi seberang. Anak-anak yang melihat dunia akan terbuka matanya dan

memakai nuraninya saat memimpin bangsa di masa depan. Di universitas

Indonesia, setiap mahasiswa saya diwajibkan memiliki pasport dan melihat

minimal satu negara.

 

Dulu saya sendiri yang menjadi gembala sekaligus guide nya. Kami menembus

Chiangmay dan menyaksikan penduduk miskin di Thailand dan Vietnam bertarung

melawan arus globalisasi. Namun belakangan saya berubah pikiran, kalau

diantar oleh dosennya, kapan memiliki keberanian dan inisiatif? Maka

perjalanan penuh pertanyaan pun mereka jalani. Saat anak-anak Indonesia

ketakutan tak bisa berbahasa Inggris, anak-anak Korea dan Jepang yang huruf

tulisannya jauh lebih rumit dan pronounciation-nya sulit dimengerti

menjelajahi dunia tanpa rasa takut. Uniknya, anak-anak didik saya yang sudah

punya pasport itu 99% akhirnya dapat pergi keluar negeri. Sekali lagi,

jangan tanya darimana uangnya. Mereka memutar otak untuk mendapatkan tiket,

menabung, mencari losmen-losmen murah, menghubungi sponsor dan mengedarkan

kotak sumbangan. Tentu saja, kalau kurang sedikit ya ditomboki dosennya

sendiri.

 

Namun harap dimaklumi, anak-anak didik saya yang wajahnya ndeso sekalipun

kini dipasportnya tertera satu dua cap imigrasi luar negeri. Apakah mereka

anak-anak orang kaya yang orangtuanya mampu membelikan mereka tiket? Tentu

tidak. Di UI, sebagian mahasiswa kami adalah anak PNS, bahkan tidak jarang

mereka anak petani dan nelayan. Tetapi mereka tak mau kalah dengan TKW yang

meski tak sepandai mereka, kini sudah pandai berbahasa asing.

Anak-anak yang ditugaskan ke luar negeri secara mandiri ternyata memiliki

daya inovasi dan inisiatif yang tumbuh. Rasa percaya diri mereka bangkit.

Sekembalinya dari luar negeri mereka membawa segudang pengalaman, cerita,

gambar dan foto yang ternyata sangat membentuk visi mereka.

 

Saya pikir ada baiknya para guru mulai membiasakan anak didiknya memiliki

pasport. Pasport adalah tiket untuk melihat dunia, dan berawal dari pasport

pulalah seorang santri dari Jawa Timur menjadi pengusaha di luar negeri. Di

Italy saya bertemu Dewi Francesca, perempuan asal Bali yang memiliki kafe

yang indah di Rocca di Papa. Dan karena pasport pulalah, Yohannes Surya

mendapat bea siswa di Amerika Serikat. Ayo, jangan kalah dengan Gayus

Tambunan atau Nazaruddin yang baru punya pasport dari uang negara.

 

*Rhenald Kasali

Guru Besar Universitas Indonesia *

 

*RAIHLAH ILMU, DAN UNTUK MERAIH ILMU, BELAJARLAH UNTUK TENANG, DAN SABAR. *

 

*(KHALIFAH UMAR R.A.)*